An honest relationship conversation…

By Daniel Francis

Sometimes, I stumble upon some real gold on social media. Below is a conversation between two people in a video I recently watched that  spoke volumes to what many, I believe, are experiencing if they were being honest:

Her: I like you

Him: I like you, too

Her: How much?

Him: A lot

Her: Oh….for me it’s just a bit

Him: Oh….

Her: What do you see when you see me?

Him: A relationship. What do you see?

Her: I see fun dates.

Him: Yea…no I am cool with that.

Her: Are you?

Him: Not really, but I will pretend even though I know I will develop feelings for you that aren’t substantiated by anything tangible. Yet keep hoping you will change your mind. Fully knowing that you won’t.

Her: Well, that’s delusional…and you are going to get hurt. Why would you put yourself through that?

Him: Well, I’d rather have some of you than none.

Her: I feel like I should end this with you before it gets to that point.

Him: Why?

Her: Well, the longer we see each other the harder the blow will be on you.

Him: So end it…

Her: I won’t.

Him: Why?

Her: Because I am getting everything I want at your expense…You end it.

Him: I won’t.

Her: Why?

Him: Because I lack the self-respect to walk away….sooooooo

Her: Yeah, what’s another situationship?

Him: Maybe we should look for other people who actually want the same thing we do.

Her: We probably should but…

If two persons were to have this conversation, it would not go like this. However, it is very impactful to hear the truth portrayed in this manner. The video delivered the shock factor that I believe it set out to achieve.

I wanted to highlight this exchange because it is a good piece of content to show what many of us get caught up in. We are unable to be honest with the person we are dating, and we get stuck in this vicious cycle as a result.

One person is getting what they want but they are very much aware that the other person wants more out of the relationship, but they are unwilling to give them more.

The other person sees the sign that both parties are not in the same alignment concerning what each other wants from the relationship but would rather have some of that person than none of them at all.

The fear of honesty and lack of it shows that we sometimes would rather take the position of moving with ignorance in our relationships than start with a clear stance of understanding.

It seems to come from a place of fear or even selfishness. Fear that you will not find better out there so settle for what you have in front of you. Or selfishness to go along with a situation because you are getting all that you want at the harm of the other person.

I see the rise in situationships in my generation as a cry for help from all of us. We have moved further and further away from the teachings of Christ and more into the secular ideals of the world. We would rather not be honest with ourselves and our partners than speak up and lose them.

We hold tight to something even if it’s not what we want because we do not trust that God will bring better into our lives. When we go to God and meet Him as we are and are open to hearing His Word and accepting the changes that He sees for us, then we will be positioned to accept His blessing.

Let this honest relationship conversation trigger deep introspection on what you do moving forward with your next relationship.

Daniel Francis is a millennial helping other millennials. He is a two-time author of the books The Millennial Mind and The Millennial Experience, and an entrepreneur. Over the past four years, he has served as a Personal Development Coach whose work targets Millennials and helps them tap into their full potential. He is also a Self-publishing coach and has guided hundreds on self-publishing their book successfully.

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