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The age of…

By Eleanor Clarke

When one thinks of ageing, two things come to mind: grey hair and wrinkles. I remember being 15 and thinking that 25 is so old. At 25, I begged to differ.

On the other hand, as a child it looked like the adults were having all the fun and there was anticipation to grow up quickly. Then, to my horror, I was introduced to the concepts of paying bills, getting job security and a myriad of suppressing concrete blocks that were no fun. Adult fun seemed to be a mirage.

Yet, getting older is not only about growing responsibilities, but also about adjusted attitude. As a teenager, it didn’t take much to get me in a fight. At forty, you will be lucky to get a raised eyebrow. Why the change?

A quote has been bandied about stating (to an effect) that when you are young, you are liberal; when you are old, you are conservative. This does not refer to political stances but rather approaches to life.

The fire-starting stimuli have changed to bare ashy embers. As life purpose and self-awareness come into play, small things remain small things. A soft utterance to self is enough to erase the power of previous gripes.

So yes, maybe ageing brings forth grey hair and wrinkles but it also brings an empowerment and self-assurance that was once fleeting. I now understand the side smirk and humoured eyes of the older folk in my life.

It’s an understanding that one day I’ll get where they are and truly get it: Not all fights are worth fighting, not all drama is meant to be staged. After all, there is a reason older folks tend to sip tea.


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