By Debra Abbot
Do you know that your inner dialogue has a lot to do with where you are today, your direction and what you are willing to accept? Yes, what you say to yourself is either steering you toward your full potential or keeping you away from your dreams.
Mindset matters – exactly what you think is what you feel. I have had a few clients come to me for direction and the story always started the same way. When I was younger, I experienced A, B and C.
You can’t change the past because the past does not exist. But you are in control of the now and can write your life script the way you want it to be.
This in no way discounts the reality and harshness of whatever occurred in your life in the past; in fact, it’s the opposite. It’s acknowledging that A, B and C occurred.
What you do after is throw the negative thought aside, it is not happening to you now; at this time, things are different in your life. You are in control of the now. Flip the script. When we go inside our minds and focus on old negative memories, we are taking ourselves out of the present moment.
The present is all we have; but we miss it by going inside our minds and filling our minds with negative memories and thoughts. Your thoughts control your actions— step out of the past and write a positive script for the future. You change your thinking, your behaviour changes and you change your life.
This is why mindset matters, and you can apply this to all aspects of your life. When you are faced with an opportunity, don’t think “I wonder if I can do this”, instead say, “Yes, God has placed me here so yes, I can do this”.
Stop for a minute and think of how your default system thinks, what type of inner conversation you have with yourself and if negative, flip the switch.
When you change your mindset, you open your world to all the possibilities to get you through. Sometimes, God sends someone to help you, but you are so lost in the negative thinking, you don’t see the opportunity, because you are lost in thinking negatively about you.
I want to leave you with one example that reinforces what I have shared. Some parents get up every morning and get their children ready for school, and they are shouting and frustrated with the whole process. They talk about it and say, “I am sooo tired, I have to get up every morning and organise the children, it’s too much!”
What if, you as a parent, flip the switch, change the inner dialogue, and say, “I get up in the morning and take care of my beautiful children, get them ready for school, help them start their day right”. “I get to ………”
Try it yourselves and feel the difference. Next week, I will share some exercises which will help you change your mindset and change your life.