The following is a reconstruct of a true story:
I have a friend who has been suffering with depression at times. Recently she has begun to dress differently, sometimes wearing what looks masculine to most people. All of a sudden, she starts to look happier than normal.
While we were liming, she got serious and thanked me for my friendship. Then she told me she was ‘trans’ (short for transgender) and that she has “always been that way”. I nearly peed myself, but I held it together. She continued that I had to come to terms with who she really was and asked me to refer to her as ‘him’.
If a teenager shared this with you, what would you do or say? It may seem “nice” to agree to call her ‘him’ but is it really the right thing to do? A ‘real’ friend always tells the truth as challenging as that may be.
Masculinity and femininity are both wonderful gifts from God. The struggle for this ‘trans’ friend is firstly, does she know why she was created female? Secondly, why is she depressed? Was there a broken relationship not dealt with by her? Does she know how much God loves her? Does she know that the most important relationship in her life is the relationship she has with God Almighty who loves her infinitely more than any human could?
Perhaps if she knew these things, she would come to accept her own body as God gave it to her as a gift.
Women are not men. Women have several unique attributes men do not have, in particular, the ability to bear a child. Even if this is not realised by a woman, women have qualities that are not typically observed amongst men.
In 1995, Pope John Paul II noted in a Letter to Women, that with their “feminine genius” “women acknowledge the person, because they see persons with their hearts”.
Women have “insight”, women “enrich the world’s understanding and help to make human relations more honest and authentic”. Woman complements man, just as man complements woman: men and women are complementary.
Womanhood expresses the “human” as much as manhood does, but in a different and complementary way. “Their most natural relationship, which corresponds to the plan of God, is the ‘unity of the two’, a relational ‘uni-duality’, which enables each to experience their interpersonal and reciprocal relationship as a gift which enriches, and which confers responsibility.”
Part of that responsibility is to understand how the male and female body works.
In the document Male and Female He Created Them – Towards a Path of Dialogue on the Question of Gender Theory in Education, gender theory is understood as an ideology whereby sexual differences are nullified, and persons identify with whatever they choose to be, which can be altered if they feel to change their personal identity and who they would be emotionally intimate with.
The result of spreading this faulty ideology is the undermining of family life as it enters educational systems and the legislature. The gender theory emerged from a strong emphasis on the freedom of the individual and their sexual tendencies without acknowledging the complementarity between males and females and their reciprocity.
It looked at how social conditions determined how the personality developed. Therefore, in this theory, gender has become a more social construct as opposed to natural or biological fact.
Families could now be formed regardless of sexual difference or procreation, once there is affection between individuals. Families are now contractual and voluntary instead of the institutional model structure.
The truth is we are impoverished educationally when it comes to sexuality in our country and worldwide. We can only respond to God’s call on our lives (our vocation) through maturity as a man or woman with the understanding of the complementarity of males and females.
In learning the Billings Ovulation Method®, we experience the genuine freedom of this complementarity of males and females in a profound way. We experience love. Contact us to learn or if you are an adult who would like to educate young people with the truth about their bodies.
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