The burden of unforgiveness
Not forgiving is a heavy burden to carry. It may not be that you don’t want to; it is that you simply can’t. The energy fails you as you attempt to climb out of the hole. You get caught in a wind tunnel and you just feel to stop trying and breathe, but you can’t breathe with an incapacitated diaphragm.
You cannot unless and until you forgive your brother who has wronged you, your child who has been rude to you, your colleague at work who continually puts you down, even if they apologise time and time again. Granting forgiveness is an act of humility. Just as challenging as asking for forgiveness is.
After all, forgiveness heals relationships by requiring us to let go, to turn the page, to refuse the right to hold on to bitterness and anger. Forgiveness is a powerfully healing force but also an incredibly difficult thing to receive or share.
O Lord, let me be like the flower that sheds a fragrance on the heel that crushes it. (Mark Twain)