We’ve grown used to thinking of abortion as a woman’s issue, and many believe that men should not even be involved in the decision to abort.
Where they are involved, we’ve come to view them either as enforcers of the abortion, abandoners, or as passive bystanders (‘I’ll support whatever you decide’), and we give little thought to those who may oppose the abortion.
Researchers have known for some time that whatever the case, men do experience a variety of effects in the aftermath of abortion.
For those who oppose the abortion, the awareness of the impact tends to be immediate, whereas for the others, it can take years to realise the significance of the impact on their lives.
As happens with women, men experience feelings of guilt and shame, depression, self-hatred, and self-esteem and confidence problems.
And according to an online article featuring a September 2008 conference, ‘Reclaiming Fatherhood: A Multi-faceted Examination of Men Dealing With Abortion’ the US-based National Office of Post-abortion Reconciliation and Healing (NOPRAH), oversight organisation for Project Rachel and other post-abortion services, men themselves described a number of other experiences:
Additionally, Guy Condon and David Hazard, in their book, Fatherhood Aborted: The Profound Effects of Abortion on Men, point out some “aftershocks” of Male Post-abortion Trauma (the impact of abortion on men).
The post-abortive man:
Some men also experience, inter alia:
If the information provided in this article seems ominous, we should perhaps remember that for every woman who has an abortion, there is a corresponding man (except in the case of polyamory) who may be experiencing several of the effects listed above.
We pose the question: what might be the implications for the mental well-being of our fledgling nation when abortion is pushed as a woman’s right, and men must be silent on the issue?
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us that we may adopt a culture of life.
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