What makes you happy?

By Leela Ramdeen,  Chair, CCSJ & Director, CREDI

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.”– Chinese proverb

Einstein was right: “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” Recently I assisted a young woman with an exit plan to escape from an abusive relationship. She is safe now. She called to thank me for being there for her in her darkest hour.

Her words still echo in my ears. She said: “When he came into my life my heart was full of joy. I thought I had finally found true happiness. When the abuse started and got worse as the years went by, my happiness turned to despair and fear.”

There was a time when my view of happiness was skewed. One night someone broke into my house and stole my jewellery, including heirlooms from my deceased mother.

I realise that material things do not necessarily bring us happiness. As the writer Denis Waitley said: “Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”

Constance Hull says: “We are made for happiness. At the deepest level of our existence, God has made us to be happy. This happiness…comes from God alone…The mistake we can make is in thinking that happiness is something material, that it is something we can grasp. Rather, it is a letting go and a relinquishment of self to God’s Divine plan. It is to conform our will to God’s will and to love God completely and love our neighbour as God loves…

“We are the unification of body and soul… This means that purely material things cannot bring us ultimate happiness. In order to find happiness our souls and our bodies must be rightly ordered to God…Jesus tells us happiness is to be blessed. On the Sermon on the Mount, Our Lord lays out the path to happiness in the Beatitudes. See Matthew 5:3–12. Blessedness, or beatitudo, is an ancient term for happiness…

“This is not to say the material is evil…Instead, Christ reminds us to focus on God first so that we can be filled with joy. Since we are made by God and for God, He is the only one who can fulfil our heart’s desires…It is in relinquishing ourselves over to His care that the emptiness, brokenness, and sins within us are healed and we are made new…In focusing on His will, we stop seeking the riches of this world and begin to live lives of holiness. In growing in holiness, we are able to transform the world…

“The Beatitudes are demanding…They teach us that happiness comes from doing the work of the Father…As Christ tells the Samaritan woman at the well, it is only Living Water that can quench our thirst. In order to be satiated, we must be willing to give our lives completely over to God. We must ponder and pray to live the Beatitudes.”

To be happy, discern and be the person God wants you to be.

SOCIAL JUSTICE QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“Peace is not the product of terror or fear. Peace is not the silence of cemeteries. Peace is not the silent result of violent repression. Peace is the generous, tranquil contribution of all to the good of all. Peace is dynamism. Peace is generosity. It is right and it is duty.”

Saint Óscar Romero

CCSJ Social Justice Education Committee 

Pope Francis’ guidelines to happiness:

1. “Live and let live.”
2. “Be giving of yourself to others…If you withdraw into yourself, you run the risk of becoming egocentric.
3. “Proceed calmly [in life].”
4. “A healthy sense of leisure…Consumerism has brought us anxiety”. The pope also urges families to turn off the TV when they’re eating together.
5. “Sunday is for family.”
6. “We need to be creative with young people. If they have no opportunities, they will get into drugs.”
7. “[Environmental degradation] is one of the biggest challenges we have.”
8. “Needing to talk badly about others indicates low self-esteem. That means, ‘I feel so low that instead of picking myself up I have to cut others down.’ Letting go of negative things quickly is healthy.”
9. “We can inspire others through witness so that one grows together in communicating. But the worst thing of all is religious proselytism, which paralyzes: ‘I am talking to you in order to persuade you.’ No. Each person dialogues, starting with his and her own identity. The church grows by attraction, not proselytizing.”
10. “We are living in a time of many wars, [and] the call for peace must be shouted. Peace sometimes gives the impression of being quiet, but it is never quiet, peace is always proactive.”